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<!--Generated by Squarespace Site Server v4.1.2 (http://www.squarespace.com/) on Sat, 05 Jul 2008 19:51:42 GMT--><rdf:RDF xmlns:rdf="http://www.w3.org/1999/02/22-rdf-syntax-ns#" xmlns:rss="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:sy="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/syndication/" xmlns:admin="http://webns.net/mvcb/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:cc="http://web.resource.org/cc/"><rss:channel rdf:about="http://blog.destinative.com/journal/"><rss:title>Journal</rss:title><rss:link>http://blog.destinative.com/journal/</rss:link><rss:description></rss:description><dc:language>en-US</dc:language><dc:date>2008-07-05T19:51:42Z</dc:date><admin:generatorAgent rdf:resource="http://www.squarespace.com/">Squarespace Site Server v4.1.2 (http://www.squarespace.com/)</admin:generatorAgent><rss:items><rdf:Seq><rdf:li rdf:resource="http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/6/26/a-simple-guide-to-wine-tasting.html"/><rdf:li rdf:resource="http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/6/4/jamaica-is-for-lovers.html"/><rdf:li rdf:resource="http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/5/31/add-a-little-spice-to-your-life.html"/><rdf:li rdf:resource="http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/5/31/new-age-sweet-talk.html"/><rdf:li rdf:resource="http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/5/31/the-most-romantic-thing-he-has-ever-done.html"/><rdf:li rdf:resource="http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/5/28/10-little-things-she-might-like.html"/><rdf:li rdf:resource="http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/5/15/dating-in-china.html"/><rdf:li rdf:resource="http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/5/15/online-dating-works.html"/></rdf:Seq></rss:items></rss:channel><rss:item rdf:about="http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/6/26/a-simple-guide-to-wine-tasting.html"><rss:title>A Simple Guide to Wine Tasting</rss:title><rss:link>http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/6/26/a-simple-guide-to-wine-tasting.html</rss:link><dc:creator>admin</dc:creator><dc:date>2008-06-26T22:32:49Z</dc:date><dc:subject></dc:subject><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wine, truly a <a href="http://www.destinative.com/collections/frontpage/products/9-holes-of-golf-with-a-pro" target="_blank">gastronomical goodie</a> when savored by sophisticated senses, let’s stop for a moment to appreciate a good bottle of wine.<br />
Ponder this, why is it that one bottle of Merlot will cost $5.99 (cheap table wine) and another $65.00 (first growth), or why is it that cheap ones gives you such a terrible headache the next morning! Just remember their is not much difference between wine and vinegar.</p>

<p>Here’s a quote I found, now this is how one should really get into a good bottle of wine.<br />
 Hermippus (an Old Greek poet) once wrote:</p>

<p><em>"But there is a wine which they call "the mellow," and from the mouth of its jar as it is opened, there comes a fragrance of violets, a fragrance of roses, a fragrance of hyacinth. A divine perfume pervades the high-roofed house, ambrosia and nectar in one."  As the last drops of the Margaux were being sipped, a guest savouring preciously every fragrance, said with unaffected humility: "When I drink wines such as these, I ask myself what merit I have acquired that I should be allowed to experience such beauty."</em><span class="full-image-float-left"><img src="http://blog.destinative.com/storage/RedWine.jpg" alt="RedWine.jpg" title="RedWine.jpg"/></span></p>

<p>Well that’s deep, maybe a tad dramatic, however isn't it enriching to know that when you buy coffee, you can tell the difference between the Bold variety from Ethiopia and the Mild varieties out of the Yucatan Peninsula? <br />
Here are a 5 step quick guide to <a href="www.wikihow.com/tasting-wine">tasting wine</a>, remember serve White Wine chilled (around 45 Degrees) and Reds, pop the cork and allow it to “breath” at room temperature:</p>

<p><strong>Look</strong> at the wine especially around the edges, look to see if the color changes throughout the body of the wine, it shouldn’t. Hold the glass against a white surface you're looking for “true color” and clarity, there might be sediments at the bottom - perfectly Ok.<br />
<strong>Swirl</strong> the wine in your glass, allow it to ride up and down on the sides of the glass. note the viscosity, a viscous wine is said to have ‘legs’ meaning it is likely to be more alcoholic.<br />
<strong>Sniff</strong> the wine. be poetic describe the various minute scents, can you compare them to anything or for that matter anywhere you have experienced?<br />
<strong>Sip</strong>, but do not swallow yet. Roll the wine around in your mouth exposing it to all of your taste buds. Pay attention to the texture and body. Then aspirate through the wine, that just a fancy way of saying; purse your lips and suck air through your mouth and up into your nose. By doing this you're looking for the full aromas within the wine and others that may have been liberated when the wine interacted with the saliva in your mouth.<br />
<strong>Note</strong> the after taste when you swallow, how long did the finish last? Do you truly like the taste? Make a mental note, pay attention to the label especially the fine print and make it a favorite.</p>
]]></content:encoded></rss:item><rss:item rdf:about="http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/6/4/jamaica-is-for-lovers.html"><rss:title>Jamaica is for Lovers!</rss:title><rss:link>http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/6/4/jamaica-is-for-lovers.html</rss:link><dc:creator>admin</dc:creator><dc:date>2008-06-04T16:03:08Z</dc:date><dc:subject>World Dating</dc:subject><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://babarootsonline.com/" target="_blank">Baba Roots</a>, Front End Lifter, Chainy Root, Search-Mi-Heart, Dandelion, Bloodwiss, Sarsapilla, Irish Moss, Strong Back, Guinness &amp; Sour Sop...… the names are exotic, but the purpose they were intended for is erotic!<br />
 Speak to any Jamaican, 25 years and older  for 5 minutes, and your entire medical history will be diagnosed, and in addition they will make strong recommendations to which “bush medication” to take to correct any bedroom problems you might be experiencing. Forget Cialis &amp; Viagra! </p>

<p><span class="full-image-float-left"><img src="http://blog.destinative.com/storage/jamaica_inn.jpg" alt="jamaica_inn.jpg" title="jamaica_inn.jpg"/></span>These formulas are aphrodisiacs, sworn to “work” by the natives, if taken at the appropriate time before a <a href="http://www.destinative.com/collections/frontpage/products/valentine-365-romantic-package" target="_blank">“mission”</a>.<br />
Jamaicans have been exporting these indigenous natural remedies to the world; along with the culture that gave us <a href="http://www.destinative.com/collections/frontpage/products/recording-studio" target="_blank">Bob Marley</a> who told us to turn our “ Lights Down Low” and Shabba Ranks’ throbbing “Mr. Lover Man”.</p>

<p>Stella went to get her groove back, now there's a woman who knew what she wanted! <br />
After-all Jamaica is the premier honeymoon destination of choice for many a Tourist from North America , Europe and Asia. <br />
“One love” has become Jamaica’s slogan – in more ways than one!</p>

<p> Even the food is spicy and exciting to the taste buds. It seems there is a vibe in Jamaica that works to stimulate your bodies, minds and souls. What can I say, the truth is in the tasting so be it a perpetual romance, a one night stand or a passion for adventure, something special awaits you on the island for Lovers.<br />
<a href="http://www.visitjamaica.com/home/Default.aspx" target="_blank">Go to Jamaica and feel alright</a>!</p>

<p><strong>Elton Brown - Montego Bay, Jamaica.</strong></p>
]]></content:encoded></rss:item><rss:item rdf:about="http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/5/31/add-a-little-spice-to-your-life.html"><rss:title>Add a little spice to your life</rss:title><rss:link>http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/5/31/add-a-little-spice-to-your-life.html</rss:link><dc:creator>admin</dc:creator><dc:date>2008-05-31T18:57:34Z</dc:date><dc:subject>Most Romantic Thing</dc:subject><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span class="full-image-float-right"><img src="http://blog.destinative.com/storage/cover_english.jpg" alt="cover_english.jpg" title="cover_english.jpg"/></span>It's not exactly late-breaking news that the scorching heat between a couple starts to cool down when the newness wears off. That's because the rush is the result of the exciting getting- to-know-each-other process. <br />
"Uncertainty is the very thing that fuels the initial interest and strong desire," says licensed marriage and family therapist Esther Perel, author of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Mating-Captivity-Reconciling-Erotic-Domestic/dp/0060753633" target="_blank">Mating in Captivity</a>. "The paradox is that long-term couples tend to give in to being predictable, which causes the relationship to become stale."<br />
Losing some steam doesn't necessarily signal the end of your twosome. But just because you're not on the edge of breaking up doesn't mean your romance can't use a booster shot. Since Cosmo firmly believes that the fun and frisky times should never have to end, we got relationship experts to divulge their amazing recharge-your-connection tips. Why not start putting them to use tonight?</p>

<p><strong>Create Erotic Anticipation</strong><br />
The days of not knowing when — or if — you'll sleep together are long gone...and so is that libido-lifting sense of wonder. Well, you can't go back in time, but you can reignite that excitement. Plan a really hot evening for both of you, but don't let him in on the details. Just purchase a <a href="http://www.destinative.com/collections/frontpage/products/spa-at-home" target="_blank">Destinative "Spa @ Home" Package</a> as an evening starter. Build the anticipation by teasing him with hints of what's to come. Let his imagination work overtime.</p>

<p><strong>Venture Into Unfamiliar Territory</strong><br />
Are their events or fantasies on both your minds that you have not shared? It doesn't have to be taboo nor anything death defying; just step a little outside your comfort zone by, say, play police and thief, where you purchase fake uniforms and other paraphernalia for each other, or something more innocent such as treat her like a <a href="http://www.destinative.com/collections/frontpage/products/princess-day" target="_blank">fashion model</a> and pretend that you are just trying to get the first date. <span class="caps">ROLE PLAY </span>that stretches out for days! <br />
You'll be creating great memories together that will become a shared reference point for future reconnecting.</p>

<p><strong>Take The Long Road To Bed</strong><br />
Once you figure out each other's hot spots and the best way to get the other off, you always tend to take the same (and quickest) route to intimacy, why waste time right? Wrong! if you want to rev up your lust life, get off the expressway and explore different, more indirect paths. Take it slow, and experiment with different techniques and positions to reawaken sexual curiosity and excitement.<br />
When was the last time you got intimate in the living room fully clothed? or do some heavy flirting while dining at a restaurant? Let's add a little spice to your life.</p>
]]></content:encoded></rss:item><rss:item rdf:about="http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/5/31/new-age-sweet-talk.html"><rss:title>New Age Sweet Talk</rss:title><rss:link>http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/5/31/new-age-sweet-talk.html</rss:link><dc:creator>admin</dc:creator><dc:date>2008-05-31T04:34:31Z</dc:date><dc:subject>Most Romantic Thing</dc:subject><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span class="full-image-float-left"><img src="http://blog.destinative.com/storage/handwritten.jpg" alt="handwritten.jpg" title="handwritten.jpg"/></span>We've all been there. The two of you are lying in bed one night and she nuzzles up against you and gives you those eyes that are saying, "tell me something sweet". If you're like most guys, the first thing that comes to mind is "I wonder where I put the remote". But it's your girlfriend and you know you're supposed to be able to come up with something better than that. If you are stuck for ideas try these on for size:</p>

<p><strong>Tell her-No Write a letter about her beauty</strong><br />
<span class="caps">YEP </span>you're so create! the old standard is indeed a good one. Whenever in doubt it is always a good idea to drop the "b" word. Beautiful is an adjective that never goes out of style in the girlfriend world. Even throw a baby in there, as in, "Baby you are so beautiful". The response you are looking for is "Awwww!", but when you put it all in a hand written letter, <span class="caps">BOOYAH</span>!</p>

<p><strong>Tell her that she's your favorite person in the world</strong><br />
Girlfriends are always in subconscious competition with your best friend, the guys at the office and your cousin who always shows up around Thanksgiving. Let her know that she's at the top of a very long list and you can be sure she'll remember that the next time the game is on and she's watching Grey's Anatomy.</p>

<p><strong>Use "I couldn't ask for a better..."</strong><br />
This is a phrase that goes hand in hand with point number two. This is your way of saying, "even if God put Adriana Lima in the hot tub, I'd rather be here with you.</p>

<p><strong>Tell her you'd rather be there with her.</strong><br />
As stated previously, it is always a good idea to let your girlfriend know that she is more important than going out with the guys for a beer or watching basketball. Well, maybe not basketball come on boys don't over do it now.</p>
]]></content:encoded></rss:item><rss:item rdf:about="http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/5/31/the-most-romantic-thing-he-has-ever-done.html"><rss:title>The "Most Romantic" thing he has ever done?</rss:title><rss:link>http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/5/31/the-most-romantic-thing-he-has-ever-done.html</rss:link><dc:creator>admin</dc:creator><dc:date>2008-05-31T04:09:27Z</dc:date><dc:subject>My Love Story</dc:subject><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span class="full-image-float-left"><img src="http://blog.destinative.com/storage/Most%20Romantic1.jpg" alt="Most%20Romantic1.jpg" title="Most%20Romantic1.jpg"/></span>After a long day at work, I came home to a warm romantic bubble bath, filled with rose petals, surrounded by candles, and topped off with a glass of white wine...every girls dream.  <br />
All the while, my then boyfriend, was cooking up a romantic meal, and adoringly running back and forth between the kitchen and the bathroom to keep an eye on dinner and also tell me how much and why he loved me so much.  <br />
When I was done with my bath, lo and behold he met me with a warm towel prepared for me in the dryer! By then I was on cloud 9, but it got better. <br />
As I strolled into the our small apartment kitchen for dinner, to my surprise, he used my make-up mirror as a pedestal for the most beautiful, brilliantly shimming ring.  My heart dropped and my legs almost gave way under me.  He walked over to me, and led me by the hand to the kitchen counter where, on bended knee, he proposed to me.</p>

<p>We recently celebrated 4 years of a beautiful marriage.</p>

<p><strong>Dani - Lake Mary, <span class="caps">FL.</span></strong></p>
]]></content:encoded></rss:item><rss:item rdf:about="http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/5/28/10-little-things-she-might-like.html"><rss:title>10 "Little Things" she might like.</rss:title><rss:link>http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/5/28/10-little-things-she-might-like.html</rss:link><dc:creator>admin</dc:creator><dc:date>2008-05-28T21:21:43Z</dc:date><dc:subject>Most Romantic Thing</dc:subject><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Gentlemen, be honest with yourself, when was the last time you did something special for your lady. In the grand scheme of things, that "thing" could be inexpensive, maybe insignificant but you know the next day at work, she took a moment to mellow in the memory.<br />
Being spontaneous takes planning, how about one "thing" per week guys? <br />
Let's call them lollipops, here are 10 lollipop ideas for you, courtesy of David Wygant:</p>

<p><strong>1.</strong>  Rub her feet instead of asking her if she wants you to rub her feet. Make it look like you want to do it.<br />
<strong>2.</strong>  Make her dinner one night. Don't ask her if she wants you to make dinner. Make her dinner before she gets home.<br />
<strong>3.</strong>  Light a candle so that she arrives home to a nice environment instead of coming home to the glaring lights of the television and other things.<br />
<strong>4.</strong>  Send her a text in the middle of the day telling her "I miss your smile from this morning" or "Last night was amazing!" or "The conversation we had last night was great."<br />
<strong>5.</strong>  Let her have control of the remote control. Don't monopolize it for a change. Just give it to her and let her actually sit there and enjoying watching one of her shows. Then you can share one of her interests by watching it with her.<br />
<strong>6.</strong>  Offer to iron one of her shirts or take her clothes to the dry cleaner.<br />
<strong>7.</strong>  Clean up the bathroom without being asked. Don't just sit there and ignore the mess around the toilet. If you know it drives her crazy to see water splashed all around the sink, dry that area after you use it.<br />
<strong>8.</strong>  If you work out together, enjoy it with her instead of rushing through your own workout and then not letting her workout at the same time.<br />
<strong>9.</strong>  Take a shower together, then wash her hair, scrub her back, and give her a spa treatment. Do this and enjoy it!<br />
<strong>10.</strong>  Surprise her by making plans. Tell her, "We're going out tonight honey." You can even just go out for a drink or dinner somewhere. It's taking the initiative that's important.<br />
<strong><span class="caps">BONUS.</span></strong>  Call her in the middle of the day and just say hello. Don't wait for her to call you.<span class="full-image-float-left"><img src="http://blog.destinative.com/storage/Fotolia_4986076_XS-1.jpg" alt="Fotolia_4986076_XS-1.jpg" title="Fotolia_4986076_XS-1.jpg"/></span></p>
]]></content:encoded></rss:item><rss:item rdf:about="http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/5/15/dating-in-china.html"><rss:title>Dating in China</rss:title><rss:link>http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/5/15/dating-in-china.html</rss:link><dc:creator>admin</dc:creator><dc:date>2008-05-15T14:00:49Z</dc:date><dc:subject>World Dating</dc:subject><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Love is in the air and romance is no longer a hush-hush in dating China. All over the Mainland China the old customs are giving way to the new. Dramatic changes have happened in China's economy, politics and now society. Chinese date resembles western dates with men serenading women with roses and chocolates. The Dating China scene is seeing romance bloom as early as in high school. <br />
Now a Chinese date is becoming more daring than a Western one with its outburst of public displays of romance and affection. Westerners are watching with gaping mouths at this trend. <br />
This is mainly because open dating in China is such a contrast to the traditional China. Romantic relationships were rare and marriage was a mere social contract between the families of the marrying couple. Dating was simply unknown. <br />
From ancient times, it was very important to follow custom of the "Three Letters and "Three Etiquettes" for a marriage. </p>

<ul>
<li>The "Three Letters" included: 1) The Betrothal Letter, which is the formal document of the engagement, 2) The Gift Letter which contains a list of gift for the wedding and 3) The Wedding Letter, this is the final document prepared and presented to the bride's family on the day of the wedding and was to confirm the formal acceptance of the bride into the bridegroom's family.</li>
</ul>

<ul>
<li>The "Three Etiquettes" included: 1) A Proposal by a matchmaker on behalf of the boy to the girl's family, 2) The Astrological birthday pairing and 3) The girls parents would be presented with exotic gifts such as lotus seed and the bridal cake.</li>
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<p>The Dating China scene today, reflects an easing of the traditional pressure of parents on their adolescent children to settle down. Chinese men and women are able to enter into relationships before they finally settle down in their late twenties. Chinese date may have opened out and become liberal but has still to cross some boundaries. <br />
Dating China still frowns on interracial dating unlike their sub-continent neighbors the Japanese and the South Koreans - a chinese - black or a chinese - caucasian relationship is a no-no. It is also not yet open to the idea of same sex relationships -Gay and Lesbian.</p>
]]></content:encoded></rss:item><rss:item rdf:about="http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/5/15/online-dating-works.html"><rss:title>Online Dating Works!</rss:title><rss:link>http://blog.destinative.com/journal/2008/5/15/online-dating-works.html</rss:link><dc:creator>admin</dc:creator><dc:date>2008-05-15T13:45:33Z</dc:date><dc:subject>Dating</dc:subject><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>To qualify myself as competent on this topic, let me first say that I met my wife online.<br />
We shared about 2 weeks of back and forth instant messages and emails, before she decided to give me her telephone number. Once that happened, I quickly convinced her to go out on our first date.<br />
We went to Tutu Tango, that wonderful Spanish influenced “tapas menu” restaurant. Unbeknownst to me, she had invited 2 of her girlfriend to trail her, you know as insurance, bail out really!<br />
Eventually we moved in together after only 2 months of serious dating, got engaged and got hitched within 5 months. Today we are happily married, we recently moved into our second home and best of all, welcomed our first child! our relationship is now going on 5 years and is sweeter and stronger than ever.<br />
Online dating works people! Love occurring serendipitously for everyone is impractical.<br />
There are over 844 lifestyle and dating sites online however, market share is increasingly dominated by several large commercial services, including! Yahoo Personals, Match.com and eHarmony, or go ethnic such as Black Planet and Mi Gente. <br />
In 2002, a Wired magazine article forecast that, "Twenty years from now, the idea that someone looking for love without looking for it online will be silly.”<br />
Convinced, to give it a try, what do you have to lose? where else, especially in Orlando can you find a list of suitable men or women with similar intentions? Here are a few tips to help you hone your skills:</p>

<ul>
<li>Do not be discouraged. consider that on average, women will receive at least 10-20 responses per day! It might take her a while to sift through the rubble to find you. </li>
</ul>


<ul>
<li>Stay true to yourself. If you are serious about meeting someone who will have to accept you for you, do not lie about you. If you weigh 230 lb today don’t post a picture of yourself 10 years ago when you were 160 lb! Ok?</li>
</ul>

<ul>
<li>Don’t be distracted. You know yourself! What personality type is the most compatible with you? Don’t choose someone because they are drop-dead gorgeous. Take the time to ask questions that will reveal who they are.</li>
</ul>

<ul>
<li>Know when to fold ‘em. Online dating services also work great for the players and playettes looking for a good time. Guys if this is your intention let it be known. Trust me, a player is always attracted to another player. </li>
</ul>

<ul>
<li>The Signs. If he/she takes days or weeks to respond to a very heart-felt message you sent, If the message seen like one you can just cut and past, If he/she constantly quip about being too busy (one can never be too busy for love). If you’re going back and forth for months and still haven’t met in person and you both live in Orlando.....move on to the next person. They are not interested!</li>
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